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my maid of honor is ruining my wedding process?

My cousin is my maid of honor. I absolutely love her and just knew she would be perfect for the job. I mean she even plans wedding as her career! she is in charge of my reception and rehearsal bc we are having it where she works. She has blown me off so many times since I have been engaged. She is even blowing off my fiance's parents. We have five more months to go and my mom and dad have sat down with her boss to address our concerns and the boss seems to think there is a jealousy factor in this. This truly hurts my feelings to know that she would sabotage my happiness over something so petty. Everytime I ask her to meet with me (such as this past sat) she says no. we live two hours away so our time is precious when we come into town. Turns out she was at a horse chase! what should I do? I do want to say that I showed up on a monday and waited for her to finish with a client for an hour. When she was done we went to lunch and she kept avoiding talking about the wedding by talking about other things that have been going on in her life. I do expect her to have a life! Its just when she puts me on the backburner, she is not only pushing us further away but she is not honoring her job duties for her job in which my parents helped her get. Its a country club not some random wedding planning job. Let me clear up again, she is the director for the receptions/ parties/etc at the place we are having it. She is getting paid very well and really I have done everything i can to give her chances to meet with me.

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Time to find a new MOH. You don't need this stress. Good luck
Time to replace the wedding planner. You can still have your cousin as the MOH but do everyone a favor and get someone else (unrelated to you) to manage the process.
get rid of her and find someone new
get another wedding planner, regardless of her career. Otherwise, it will cause bitter feelings, and your wedding mite be a disaster. It's YOUR wedding. If she doesnt have time for you, find one that does. PERIOD........
How can you possibly allow this woman to be in your wedding if you can't even rely on her to show up for a meeting? Cousin or not, she is no friend. You need to find a new maid of honor PRONTO and omit this one from the wedding party altogether. Do NOT let her do this to you.
Find a new MOH and wedding planner! You don't need this aggrivation.
Speak with your cousins manager again and ask for someone else to oversee your plans. Your the customer - if they say no - go above that person to the next.
Well you may absolutely love her but she doesnt seem perfect for the job as you want it done.Call her and tell her that you know how busy she is and that you have hired someone else to be in charge of the receptioin and rehearsal and then get someone else. This will only get worse!
use another wedding planner, simple as that. this is about you and whatever her problems are those are her concern. use an outside source because not only is this about your happy day this is about business. her boss even told you what her problem may be, i think you should listen. your maid of honor should be happy for you and want to help, i think you shoud find another maid of honor as well. sorry you're going through this but you have enough time to make ajustments and relieve some of you stress, but congratulations on starting a life with someone you love. remember, it's about you right now, not her.
Let her know your concerns. Tell her that you will start looking for another planner if she cant do it for you. Ask her if it is too much for her. Let her know that you will still love for her to be your MOH. I hope it all works out for you.
She probably doesnt even realize shes doing it, shes just trying to help. let her know how you feel politely.
Get a new maid of honor, or at least ask to have someone else deal with your wedding plans. If she wasn't your cousin and she was treating you this way you would definately find someone else. Don't be any different just because she is family. This is one of the most important days of your life so don't let her ruin that for you.
Let her know how you are feeling--don't just let someone else take over the MOH duties, and the situation will just sit and fester...It will be better for your future relationship if you are honest and discuss these issues together!
You should go to her unexpectedly and talk to her, that way she can't blow you off. You should really let her know that you chose her to be your maid of honor for a reason, and that reason was bc you trusted her, and you thought that she wouldn't do you wrong. She should understand after that, but If that doesn't work then I suggest finding a new Maid of Honor. Hope everything works out! :-)
You need to find a new wedding planner. If you talk to your cousin about the way she's been acting and she doesn't care to change then you'll also need a new MOH. If she wants to be jealous and immature, don't let it ruin your joy and happiness. This is YOUR big day, and no one should get in the way of that. You're probably stressed out as it is, you don't need this. I was going to have my cousin in my wedding, and possibly my MOH too, but she's been acting jealous and making negative comments about it. So I'm not even having her be apart of the wedding party. I hope it all works out for you
Keep her as your Maid of honor, replace her as the wedding planner. Tell her boss you need someone else in the company (like her boss) to manage your wedding planning, that you will not be using her services anymore. And this is why I rarely do business with family members or close friends, because people seem to think that because you're either related or are friends that gives them the right to be less than professional.
I would keep her as the maid of honor, but find a new planner. Maybe the stress of planning for family is too much for her. It may be difficult to ask her to step aside, but tell her that you feel like you've put her in an uncomfortable position and give her an out. That way you don't have to attack her ability as a planner. Also, be prepared for her to step down as the maid of honor if she is offended. Oh, and if she is doing this for free, she may be feeling put upon.