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How Do I make my dad understand I want a career not just a job?
I am 24 years old. I have been doing seasonal work in Mallorca since I was 18. I was planning to go to Main Land Spain this Summer as I did not want to return to Mallorca. However my plans fell through. I have usually returned to a job in the winter after my stint in Mallorca. However this winter. I could not get my job back due to management changes and issues beyond my control so I signed on. As i was planning to go to Spain I worked a Part Time job in a cafe for 10 hours a week or so until the boss started to mess about and the hours and cr@p she dished out were not worth while. When my plans of going to Spain did not work out I thought i would go spend the Summer in Skegness (I live in Bradford) with a friend. She was part way through moving house and things were going slow so I knocked that on the head. Now I want a career not just a job. I want to get into Youth Work but it is a slow process how do I get my dad to understand. I don't feel I am wrong at wanting a good future. I have GCSE's ranging from A-F City and Guilds Numeracy I know how to use a pc and the internet, I did BETC Leisure and Tourism Animation Option that is hotel entertainment and I have gone as far as i wanted to in Entertainment, I also did BTEC Overseas Operations which trained you to be a childrens rep I did as much as i could cope in that job. Now when I left school I have no idea what I wanted to do career wise but i did not want to waste my life on dead end jobs so I did what i wanted to while i was young and gained work and life experience. Now I know what i want to do and it is youth work or something in residential Units ( Children's homes) I want a career that is challenging and rewarding and i am willing to study again and volunteer but its hard to find the information as a lot comes from 3rd parties and criminal record checks take a while and the job centre are slow. My dad thinks i am lazy and sit on my backside. It is tearing my mum to pieces as dad is on her back My mum is stuck in the middle as she knows what i want to do but my dad is not willing to understand and it is not easy living at home. At time I help with the cleaning but in everybody else eyes this is my destiny when i get married to be a mother and a wife and do the house work and have a job and i kind of resent doing that now but i do. i always believed parents were meant to support you in you descisions and my mum does but she is again Piggy in the middle between me and my dad. I feel like that baddy for wanting to provide a better future ffor myself while i still can but my dad thinks i should get a job any job. He does not see todays world Im in a catch 22 with recruitment agencies if i have experience they want qualifications and visa versa. while i was in Mallorca i achived all i could and i am happy with my choices. yes it would have been nice to settle in mallorca have a nice little job and family and that but i have always wanted more. The way my mum talk it is like my dad will throw me out as i can not be a sucessful as him or my mum or brother. Luck has a part is sucess and in time i will fall lucky i know Rome was not built in a day. I am sick of the tears of frustration I cry almost every day and the pain i feel when things are not sucessful but i have to keep going.
Public Comments
- you don't have to make him understand anything, its your life not his. If he has a problem, hes gotta deal with it, not you.
- Take it from me, you are in control of your own destiny. Yes, you love and respect your father and do not want to disappoint him, but this is your life. You are the only person who will be living your life. I have learned that you really should love what you do.
- Up to now it looks you have done a lot, seen a lot had a lot in the main achieved not a lot, so don't blame your dad if he doesn't understand. Don't convince show him the end result.
- not neccessary to make anyone understand. waste of energy. use your energy to make your dreams happen, not explain them. parent dont understand anyway. do what you want and got to do. try showing him this question and the way you have phrased things, and the answers you have got. maybe then he will understand.
- it's understandable that you want to have your dad understand what your needs are. the best thing to do is to sit him down and talk. a few tears may help(i'm not kidding)! make him realize the importance of a strong founded career, that will carry you through life. a "job" will not give you the same satisfaction, or probable stability. often parents dont get our vision of the world, but u've got to try your best to make them understand. if they still dont support you, it's because they r too stuck up in the memories of their own hardships...not becos they want you to suffer!! if the situatuoin becomes like this, let go!!
- I think that your dad is worried about you. It's just coming out all wrong. He wants to protect you, but can't. It's pretty obvious that you are not settled, and your dad probably doesn't understand the modern female. Things having changed so much in recent years.
