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Is my view on my relationship unusual?

I've been with the same guy 2 1/2 years and he is absolutely amazing. We're very happy together and are excellent at talking out problems (its taken a while) so we rarely have knock down drag out fights. he's very very sweet and funny and playful...my family loves him and vice versa and its an excellent relationship for me to be in. here's where a couple friends think i'm strange: i like to make him happy any way i can, i want to be the best friend/girlfriend to him i can be, i want to take care of him, dont cause unneccesary arguments, dont be a nag...(the same efforts are made by him too, i should add) are these bad traits for a girl to have or something? to be career/academically ambitious but still wanting to make a man happy? i feel like my friends think the two dont mix...i actually get a good bit of ridicule for what they feel is old fashioned i thinkmy friends think that since i invest time in trying to be the perfect girl for a guy, that i'm no longer empowered as a women or something

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Wow, sounds like the perfect relationship! I don't see the problem - you are both making the effort to keep each other happy, and know each other well enough not to push each others buttons and have arguments.
You sound too good to be true. Your boyfriend is fortunate to have someone like you. As long as you can keep it up throughout your life it'll be worth something. It's called being selfless, putting other peoples needs ahead of your own. Not enough people do that, it's all me, me, me, you know?
From what you describe I can only say YOU ARE MADE FOR EACH OTHER. Good luck and God bless.
No you sound like a great girl and in an excellent relationship. In fact wanting to be the best girlfriend you can be is why it so good. He is lucky to have a girl like you. I hope this all works out for you.
basically u r the perfect girl for him , keep on loving and caring for him . good luck and GOD bless u 2 and ur life.
What do your friends think you should do ... slam him into the ground for being a male then stomp on him for good measure? You're behaving the way God meant people to behave - caring and kind. I'm an antique 70 but must be considered nice as I have five close friends and have received 19 marriage proposals (2 accepted). After my second husband died, a friend of his asked me if what my husband had told all his friends about me was true - that I never nagged him and was a cheerful person to live with. I had to think for a minute and then, answered, "Yes." It's more important that you be pleased and contented with the person you are than what other people think you should be and don't forget that friends can, occasionally, be envious!
I don't think that's weird. You don't want to make him upset so you're trying to make him happy. Just don't lose sight of yourself kay? Don't transform yourself completely - remember there's a reason why he's with you! He likes you for you. Nothing wrong with being career orientated and trying to make sure your relationship avoids the rocky patches. Nothing wrong with it at all. Tell your friends they're jealous :p Tell them it's not old fashioned - it's vintage!
i'm like that too. i don't think it to be ridiculous/wrong/unusual at all. because after all, that's what makes relationships work: effort & thoughtfulness coming from both sides. but hey... not everyone is like that. some girls have an idealistic image in their head of how a boyfriend should be and they try to nag and drag their guy towards it. i'm not a big fan of that =P long live positive reinforcement & trying your best to keep your man happy!! =D
I've been married nearly 30 years, and this is how I've always treated my husband, and he treats me the same-with very much love and respect. This is what a real loving relationship is all about. There comes a time in everyone's life when you grow up and move away from childish friends who don't understand how a relationship is supposed to be. Now is your time. We all have our paths in life. Follow your heart. Your comments about your friends kind of makes me wonder if they are a bit jealous of your happiness - they seem a bit high-schoolish to me.
I'm not intending to be the spectre at the feast here!! but if it aint broke dont fix it!! I have lost my soulmate now and I would give everything to have our time over as he was too good to be true as well and I didn't fully appreciate it when he was alive. Keep doing whatever you are doing, Happiness is so wonderful. Good Luck :) (your friends would LOOOVE what you have, or if not, the saying goes when you are on your deathbed you never wish that you had just worked harder....)