Full Careers - Is it unusual?

Is it unusual?

Last month, I moved away from home to start my career someplace cheaper. (I just recently graduated from grad school). The plan was to stay with my ex boyfriend for 3 months and then get a place of my own. When we started experiencing conflict, I tried to talk to him about it. I told him that I didn't think that things were working out. Next thing I knew, he told me to get out.... that day. He refused to help me pack, take me to a hotel or even find another place to stay. Thankfully, I ended up finding a place and even landed a new job. It's been 3 weeks since my ex threw me out on the street and I haven't heard from him nor have I called him. The thing is, the day after it happened, I was pretty much over it. I didn't cry about it and my friends are amazed. I am not trying to put up a front but I just don't feel sad about the situation. I have already met someone else and am looking forward to the future. My question is this: Is it unusual to have moved on so quickly?

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no its not unusual.... u didnt cry because u knew it was over and u knew that u deserved better than that! dont feel bad for moving on! thats what u are supposed to do! congrats :)
Good for you! Enjoy your new life!
No, it's not that odd...when someone treats you in a very unkewl manner, it can be pretty easy to get over them.
No, is just means that you didn't have any feelings left for him. You've moved on and you are over him. Go you!
not at all..... u probably didnt love/like him as much as u thought u did
after what your ex did its good that you moved on
it is normal
NO!! how fast you move on depends on many things. In my opinion if he did those things no wonder you moved on so fast...I think you did the right thing, crying won't make any difference....I congratulate you,...but check if you're not running away from the feeling, if not....good work..you're on your way to meet a guy that really cares about you.
not at all. that was your limit, and he broke it, and you're done. there comes a time with everyone that we decide enough is enough. congrats
No it's no unusual. You said it yourself that you didn't think things were working out. So in your mind you had moved on before you verbally told him. Keep on moving girl...
No it's not unusual. It sounds like a relieve.
No, there comes a time in our lives... look at me I sound so grown up! I am not really though ;).... Well anyways how I was saying.... IN WHICH we know what's best for us and certain things like HIS actions make it easier for us to move on. It's stupid to say, if it isn't meant to be it's not BUT it's so true! Now you have found someone better and that's that. You have just matured enough to realize you're ex is just a waste of time WHY would you cry over someone like that. You know...
no, you said you moved in with your 'ex' meaning you were seperated already and started the healing process. it didn't hurt you because inside you were already moving on.
No, not at all, The same thing happened to me. well not the kicked out part but the not feeling bad about it part. I think that what happens is that you didn't love him anymore and you were just together out of comfort, out of custom. don't feel bad that you don't feel bad be glad your out and experiencing new things. More power to you!!!!
It sounds like you were done with the relationship before it was really over. What happened is when you were thrown out you were already detached from him. So, your grieving process had already taken place and you were already over him. It's not that unusual. Many people stay in relationships well after they're over. No one has said the words so they just stay. Once someone says it's over, it's easy to move on.
NO, good job he wasn't worth it and you didn't waste valuable time feeling sorry for yourself. Move on and don't let any man bring you down. You should be better than that.
no. you should see what i do. i am out the door before they can say "but i love you". and i never look back. they always come back when the guy they left me for goes back to his wife, but i do not even talk to them. i do watch the "movies" we made, though. thank god women arent smart enough to get those back before they tell me about the guy they slept with. in your case it just means you know it wasnt your fault, so you moved on.
First, congratulations on your graduation, your new career and the beginning of your new life!! Maybe you aren't feeling bad because it is the right move for both of you. You were having conflict and recognized that it was not working. You chose to be an adult and try to discuss this with him and he chose to boot you out immediately. He had no concern for your welfare and didn't care how you got out, just insisted that you do it. You did it and ended up better than you might have if you had stayed. Don't call him; don't think about it and have no regrets! You are obviously doing quite well and looking to the future. Good for you!! Have a nice life and continue making the right decisions for yourself!!
I don't think it's unusual--I've done it myself. However, from experience, I wouldn't say it is "healthy." I realized later that I was denying my feelings and not allowing myself enough time and space to feel them and release them. I wished that I had given myself some time to myself to feel and heal and be by myself before jumping into another relationship. Then the new boyfriend was affected by the feelings that eventually did resurface. Of course, it does depend on how close you were and how long you were together, but it's normal to expect to have some kind of feelings about it. You've gone through a lot of changes lately, and sometimes for me it's easy to lose track of myself and my feelings when a lot is going on in my life. I would suggest just being careful before getting involved with the new person too quickly... it could be a "rebound relationship," which I haven't found to work out too well.
Seems to me u already was OVER him to start with, i know we all deal w/ stress and pressure differently, but if u rally was connected totally it would of bothered u a little. When u are through with a situation you could careless and are actually glad of the outcome. Must of been some red flags b4 this open ur eyes and think... You seem to be the better 4 it good luck and God bless! You are better than that to dwell in the past
no it's okay.. and i think its a very good step 2 take =)
It is normal at all. you are over with him and you are on your way to your new life. Congrat. I giving you a star.