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How should I talk my boyfriend into getting plans for the future?

I asked my boyfriend what his future plans are, like going to college, and career plans.... he told me that he doesn't have any... he's almost eighteen and is a senior in highschool. How should I get him to think about future plans, and ideas... I really want him to get a job. O and how do I talk him into getting his drivers liscence?... (he didn't pass the written test the 1st time and hasn't bothered to try to take it again). What should I do to talk him into doing this stuff? I love him so much so I'll wait for him to find his future... anyways... he told me he wants to go into technology... but he wants to wait for me to graduate high school so that we can go off to college together, but he doesn't have a job or a driver's liscence yet...

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1. Sounds like you're a very ambitious person, and he's not. Perhaps it's better to end things now. You can't "make" someone ambitious...either they are or they aren't. You can't make him study or go to college or make something out of himself. He's got to want those things on his own. If he does some things just to show you he's doing them, then he won't succeed at them. He's got to want it himself, and do the things to make them happen. Having said that, he's only 17 years old. He may be just going through a phase or rut. Maybe he'll snap out of it. If you love him that much, then give him some time. If you don't love him that much or don't have the patience, then get out now before too much is invested emotionally.
2. Well you can lead a horse to the water but you can't make em drink. What i am saying is that maybe you are mature and he is not. Girls mature a whole lot faster than guys. So that into consideration.