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why is society more accepting of a professional guy marrying an ordinary girl by education/career?
than the opposite? i mean, why is society more accepting of a professional guy marrying an ordinary girl by education than a highly professional woman marrying a guy with an average or below average job?
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- Becasue a lot of woman need someone to take care of them financially in older age or guys for that matter.
- Because even in today's society, the husband is expected to be the provider. So, when the husband earns less or has less education he isn't considered really disarable by any means.
- In the US, its pretty accepting of either. For a while there my wife was making more money than me and I decided it'd be best to take some time of and care for the kids. No one thought it was funny, i just pointed out that she made more cake, and everyone was like "oh, well that makes sense"
- Because men are supposed to be the bread winners. Because it's still ok for a woman to be kept but not a man.
- I think it's because of the mindset that man is the provider. I personally could care less if my future husband has a better career or higher education than me and vice versa.
- When your talking society standards they really are whoever is speaking it. My favorite thing I like to say when someone is in my business is " Why does that interest you." I think it would be fine as long as they enjoy each others company.
- And here I thought it worked both ways. It seems to me that society frowns on marrying "outside your class" regardless of the gender. However, your observation may stem from the "men must make more money" syndrome that society embraces. Personally, I make more than twice as much as my boyfriend, and we're both fine with it...
- Because no matter how you slice it or package it, in your heart you know, it is not a good idea to marry a guy who can't take care of you. That is just the way it is. A real man should be able to care for his woman.
- Because we still expect the man to be the "provider" for his family. My sister in law is a doctor and she married a guy making minimum wage at Geico. She wanted a stay at home guy to take care of the kids and that is what she got. It is becoming more acceptable then before, but it is still a long way from being equally acceptable for a stay at home dad vs. a stay at home mom. Don't worry about it if it makes you happy, sure there will be the jokes and comments, but those close to you will see you are happy and get along with it just fine. Who cares what the stranger down the street thinks?
- My guess is that society views women as the underdog so when they marry someone who is not as educated as they are, society thinks that she is selling herself short.
- That is a 'hangover' from the days before 'feminism' and the campaign to get women 'equal' in the workplace. In those days, the MAN was supposed to be the 'breadwinner' so it was more acceptable for the man to be a professional. I'm 57, and from an 'upper middle class' family, and I was a 'professional' (psychologist). When I was 46, I married a man who was from a 'lower middle class' family who had been a chef but was unemployed. I supported him (we were BOTH terribly poor, but at least I had an income) for nearly three years. These days, he's a 'web developer' (he's also a 'fine artist' even if he never made much money at that) and we live OUR LIVES in a way that makes us both very happy. We are 'happy' because we both believe in the same 'things' ... from religion to the weather, and we are BEST FRIENDS. I don't think that what 'society' thinks should 'count' when two people want to get married ... it's what THEY WANT that counts ... but they need to take a good 'mature' look at their love before they make that decision, no matter what 'background' or 'career' either or both of them have.
- When you accept other things like interracial dating, you tend to accept other similar stuff too such as mixed careers or lifestyles.
- Only snobs think that way, and thats not true!!!! You can marry that guy if you wan to, first he has to ask thogh!!!!!.
