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Career Development?

Hi Kindly help me im confused....!!!!! im goin to US shortly with my husband..i had dreams of becoming a house wife and thats what we decided in our early talks,& only when circumstances compel to pursue a job, i needopt one..all of the sudden he has come up with the though that i need to go to work immediately i come there..since his frend's wife is resigning her job as a teacher in august,we had so many arguments on that and too many misinterpretations.. what should i do now..my friends simply say just do what he says & later let him know that u r not interested, now my problem is..just a leave option of 3 months relax & njoy the new place and then go to work..but he says once an oppurtunity is lost in US it is tough to get it back... i unable to get ahead of this..plzz advise me.. so that we dont end up in hardships.cos i know how much i love and i do understand his love for me..but i get pizzed when he talks much about money and career(importance of money & only money.

Public Comments

1. First make sure you really do need to work. Think about what you want from your life, and how the two of you can compromise. Perhaps part time work would be possible. Even if you began looking for a job right away, you should be able to arrange things so that you can take some time off before you start. Perhaps a month or so to settle in and relax.
2. Just find that if you need to work more than staying at home the best thing is try for a career and forget about the guy as he only wants you to be unhappy when you get out there in the US
3. He is purely panicking that when you two set up home, you wont be able to survive on his income alone. He is right to ask you and has every right to-- its only fair that you do go to work and help out with the bills. U have no reason not to-- no children, nothing holding you back. It's not a holiday, its a new start for you in another country so make the effort and take a little pressure off your husband. If you persist it will not work and the only arguements you will have will always centre around money issues.
4. He's your husband you said, so listen to him. You have a very good and valid point and staying at home s surely the best of all option, but you can make him come to accept this, when and only you have taken his command and remove his macho thinking from this- if this is his reason[s] anyway. Good luck and good thinking.
5. Well it really does take quite a bit of money here in the USA to make it at a decent living house. You might tell him that you will take a part time job to get use to working then you may take a step up to working full time. But if I were you I would listen to him because he obiviously has done his research on living in the USA. Take it from a US Citizen who is married and has one child. It is not easy to make ends meet with one paycheck with two you have a fighting chance to make a decent living for you family even if the you are working part time.