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How to succeed in finding a job when you have never been Outgoing?
ANd you don't have the speaking skills that other people your age have built up since they were kids. For example me, i suck at speaking. I try to speak but nothing comes out correctly.. i stutter, i get red, and the few times i've gotten interviews i fail miserably. I've failed for 1 year at job searching, what can i do? My city has no Career counseling center. ALl they have is a Work resource center for using cmputers to find jobs.. that doesn't help me much
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- Use the internet to find you a job that can allow you to work from home. If you are in a dveloping country like india or brazil, there are many back office jobs for someone like you.
- work to develop an outgoing persona. Its a mask that you can put on that doesn't mind talking to new people. The secret is to pretend that you are someone else who has stolen your identity and is making a life in your name.
- I have always been shy. I Hate interviews. Try for a job where you don't have to work with people much. Unfortunately, in most jobs you do have to deal with people at least some of the time. All my jobs have dealt with people, & you do get better at it, because you Have to. The best job I had as far as working on my own though, was as a meter reader. There was just a test, no interview, then you go out & read your routes on your own every day after you are trained. It was hard work physically, but you only saw a few customers. Does your city have a gas or electric company? You can see how to test to be a meter reader. Or how about a mail carrier or sorter, or a delivery driver like UPS?
- One tip I was given is just imagine the interviewer in his underwear and smile. Just talk to the person like they are a friend be honest and they seem to like it if you have a question or two at the end of the interview. for example if the company has initials what do they stand for, What is the company motto?, Do the people in the office work good together as a team? Don't be afraid of asking questions, its how you become a good employee. when you go into the interview do not fiddle with your hands if the chair you sit in has arms on it keep your arms on the chair arms it will appear as though you are an open minded person. If they don't then place your hands together and don't fiddle. Do not cross your arms this looks as though you are not approachable. If you don't have any questions have a closing statement like, I am a good team player and I will look forward to hearing from you and thank you for your time. Everyone turns a bit red in an interview and most interviewers know that you are already nervous. How on earth do you think they feel? what if the interviewer is the first time he has done the job of interviewing. Keep a smile on your face, be friendly, and practise in the mirror answering questions about your skills, if you start to studder in the interview just say sorry I am a bit nervous only once though. They will appreciate your honesty. Take your time to answer the question, if you are unsure of how to answer ask them if they could please reword the question. or give you an example. Take a tylenol and a cup of tea before you go on the interview it will caulm you down. You will have to answer what is your greatest strength and weekness. Mine is training people on computers and my weekness is spelling and thank God computers have a spell checker now. Do you get the gist of the whole thing? with a little humour. You will be fine. Take care Heather
- 1) Pick the right kind of work (read: something not requiring you to be out of character all the time). Chances are the person interviewing you will either understand you don't need strong communication skills for the job -- or will be like you! 2) Not the answer you want, but one you'll have to live with: you have to actively work on not being so shy. If you're stammering, stuttering and turning red you have to go out and seek conversation with strangers to develop that part of your personality. Look, none of us are born perfect and all of us have parts of their personality that need to be trained and developed in order to successfully deal with society. You can overcome stammering and turning red. I used to be like that all the time (though with women, not in the business scene). I just kept at it all the time and eventually it got better. The thing that helped me most was to stop myself for a brief second and think about my answer before I actually started saying it. I found that most of my stammering and stuttering (and rsulting frustration and embarassment) was a result of trying to "think on the fly of the right thing to say" - and my brain/mouth were never that well connected. By giving myself a little pause before opening my mouth I always answered more directly, more clearly and with more conviction. Which are the fundamentals of great communication. Try it with someone you're comfortable with first and cut yourself some slack. As for career counseling, think about what kinds of jobs that you see out there that interest you and then go do specific research into them. We see jobs all the time we might enjoy and we never really "see" them.
- Check out the web site for The Stuttering Foundation and see if some of their tips help you with your stuttering. Look under "brochures for all ages" for the brochure for employers and download some copies. Mail them before you go to and interview or take it with you when you go. It lets employers know that people who stutter are very hard workers despite their speech. Go to your local library and see if they have some of the Foundation's books as they will help you with stuttering and speaking in general. You might try practicing an interview with a family member or friend. You can get sample interview questions online. Write them down and write down your answers. Practice, practice, practice even in front of a mirror might help if you can't get someone to help.
- If you are interested in working from home,you could check this site out for legitimate work from home jobs http://www.pcworkathome.net
