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Should I ask a fellow band member to be my girlfriend?

Hi, I am 16 years old, male. I am the drummer, keyboardist, and song writer for a symphonic metal band. I really want to ask out the singer in my band, and I know for sure she likes me too. But, I am not sure if I should, because our relationship might interfere with the band, and there would also be the chance that if we break up,God forbid, it might ruin the band. We are both shooting for musical careers and are working really hard on it. She is the best singer ever in my opinion, and we have very high hopes for this band. It is driving me nuts, and i get a feeling in my stomache every time I think about her, which is pretty much always.We plan on music being our future and are going to be working together to get there...and it would suck to have a relationship ruin that...but on the other hand... What should I do? email me if you want to check out our page...i dont really want to slap on this page on the internet though by the way wolf t, that made me laugh my ass off, i hate dragonforce, they are not symphonic metal

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romance and bands don't mix. But.... true love will always be more important then a band. If you were in the top 40 I would say steer clear, but I'm guessing you aren't. So I say don't miss out on a chance to love.
Why not? Do you really want to be kicking yourself later when you realise you'll never get that chance again? You're too young for regret, so make sweet music either way. much love, prettydangflyy
I've never seen a romance work between band members, sorry dude.
You always run some sort of risk entering into any relationship. The stakes are even higher since it's a band-mate. Throughout the history of rock, relationships have always had an effect on their respective bands. Fleetwood Mac and Abba come readily to mind. My take? Don't worry about the long term ramifications and just go with what you're feeling. Reason being is you're both young and nothing is etched in stone as to how far your band will go. But when a chance for a relationship comes around, sometimes you must throw caution to the wind. Go for it.
that is not a good idea. trying to be in a relationship with a bandmate is trouble. say you guys are practicing and you sounded off-key or her pitch wasn't right...if the other said something it'll start being offensive. more like "nagging" instead of improving the bands sound. plus you guys would be working together a lot. it's just not a good idea. keep it at a friendship level.
OMG HAVE U HEARD THAT SONG BY DRAGONFORCE CALLE THROUGH THE FIRE AND FLAMES IT HAS A SWEET DUET GUITAR SOLO I LOVE ANAL SEX
It's definitely a risk. But if it works with Jack and Meg for over a decade, then it might work out with you. I know a guy in my English class who desperately wants to be a Broadway actor. But at the same time, he'd love to be a ladies' man. The truth is that most of the girls seem to have this grimace on their face if they even thought about going out with him...the point is that he decides to put his "career" first before having social contact with people. I don't know if that's terrible, but he's around 14 or 15 and is already worrying about that. It's your choice what you want to put first. You're 16, so it's interesting if you're looking for a serious relationship right now. And the worst thing about life is time, because eventually, it'll run out when either the interest in the band dies out or if she's taken, or whatever. From my view, I'd say go for it and see how far the relationship goes. If it becomes serious, then it's a red flag, which is even worse because at that time, you'll be too happy to break up with her.